Violence and some ways to avoid it!

Violence is “the intentional use of physical force or power, threatened or actual, against oneself, another person, or against a group or community, which either results in or has a high likelihood of resulting in injury, death, psychological harm, mal development, or deprivation. Globally, violence takes the lives of more than 1.5 million people each year. Also, without death, violence has long term effects that plaques society; such as, hospitalizations, visits to the emergency rooms and doctors, physical and emotional scaring that directly effects economic and social development.

In society, the forms of violence can vary, for example;

– Self directed violence

– Non-physical

– Interpersonal

– Targeted

– Collective

During my 24 years in law enforcement, I have witnessed and have been involved in many forms of violence. During those times, a high percentage of the time, the actor, attacker, or criminal, who commits the act of violence, usually attempts to retrieve or wants something from their victim. Weather it is for monetary value, status, etc…; targeted and or collective, most times the actor will look for what they perceive as a smaller much weaker opponent, adversary, or victim; These parasites will also use the cover darkness and target areas where there are no witnesses; Predator versus prey.

Predation-describes a biological interaction where the act of predation often results in the death of its prey and the eventual absorption of the prey’s tissue through consumption.

In human society, predators may or may not kill their intended victim. Only, in rare cases, Jeffery Dahmer, do you see or hear about human predators feeding on their victims. So, the end result of a violent attack is complicated and has no predictable results. Again, from experience I do know that a violent attack happens extremely quick, most times without any warning. Saying that, there are several ways that we can protect ourselves without even stepping into a self defense class.

1- Park in highly lit areas

2- Always be aware of your surroundings! I am not telling you or your loved ones to be paranoid but utilize your senses; eyes, ears, and feelings.

For example, while walking to your car, after a long night of  Christmas shopping, and your, “SPIDER SENSE, ” starts to tingle, run to your car!

3- Don’t give the predator the upper hand by feeling bad!

For example, again, while walking to your car, after a long night of  Christmas shopping, you are approached by an un-identified person and they ask, “DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS?”, Meanwhile, you notice they are wearing a watch, and you just walk past them ignoring them! When that same individual starts ranting and raving about his ethnicity or helping people down and out, please just continue to walk away! Don’t play their game, turn around, and walk in to the arms of the attacker!

 

 

4- Utilizing the first rule, try to identify the threat as quickly as you can so you can avoid it!

For example, again, while walking to your car, after a long night of  Christmas shopping, while you are walking to your vehicle, you observe un-identified person that gives you the “CREEPS”, walking on the same side of the street, go with your instincts, made aware by your senses, and cross the street. Identifying the threat and creating space will give you a better chance to escape an oncoming attack! When that same individual starts ranting and raving about his ethnicity or helping people down and out, please just continue to walk away! Don’t play their game, turn around, and walk in to the arms of the attacker!

5- When you get to your vehicle, prepare, observe, look, and listen 360 degrees! For example, have your keys in your hand well before you approach your vehicle. While walking to your vehicle, remember the first rule, utilize your senses, 360 degrees. At your vehicle, walk around your vehicle making sure no one is waiting for the attack. While doing so, look inside your vehicle too. As your are unlocking your car, remotely or manually, remain focused still utilizing your senses 360 degrees.

6- If you are attacked, “SCREAM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!,” Let people hear you!

7- Most importantly, if you feel yourself passing out, during the attack, do everything and anything necessary to create space, make the attacker regret his choice, and screw up their plan!

For example, during an attack, “SCREAM,” kick, punch, scratch, bite, stomp, and spit to freeze your attacker momentum even if it’s only for a split second! That split second might be your only chance you have to escape! Remember, a high percentage of the time, the attacker only has a small window of opportunity to complete his task. The longer he struggles with a “SCREAMING, BITING, KICKING, PUNCHING, SPITTING LUNATIC, the more likely he will be caught!

8- Be in some sort of shape, so you can out last draining your attacker’s energy!

9- Get yourself involved some sort of Self Defense training program!   

Following these rules is easier said than done. Most people truly want to believe that they will never be attacked by a violent person or be involved in a violent encounter. We are all taught from an early age that it is bad to hit your brother or sister; trained to be peaceful and non-violent! But, when we realize the reality of violence, sometimes it’s too late!  Look at what happened on September 11, 2001. I do know this!  Although the chances of being a victim of a terrorist attack have increased, since September 11, 2001, the percentages of you being involved in a similar incident is still very low. Also, being attacked by a serial killer, a plot of assassination, or kidnapped by Martians is still very un-likely. Predators will pray on those who are smaller, appear weaker, and usually those who put themselves in vulnerable situations; targeted. Because they are lawless, predators usually want or desire certain items from their victims and will do anything and everything necessary to accomplish their goals; collective.  Sometimes, the outcome and the end result is considered to be the worst case scenario. There are many studies and theories about the causes of violence, how to help stop violence, yet violence has plagued civilized societies for millions of years. I truly believe violence is part of who we are and is an instinctual behavior that humans attempt to suppress. Instead of trying stop violence, as a whole, dead in its tracks, we should embrace it, not be fearful of it, and never let it control our lives! “DON’T BE A VICTIM EVER AGAIN!”